personal photo by Lilipily Spirit
personal photo by Lilipily Spirit

The beginning of all healing comes from care.

Have you ever heard that love is a ‘healing energy‘?  Yet even those most loved often still need healing.

Healing is an energy that is resident in us from birth.  Stem cell research has discovered that each cell of our body possesses the ability to build and regenerate, but as we get older these processes stop and new cells become faulty, leading to degeneration and physical aging.

Through laboratory processes, scientists can now stimulate old body cells to remember their innate ability for regeneration and to multiply by building new cells.  This is how medical science is beginning to provide material for repairing organs today.

In fact, the basis for all healing lies in a similar stimulation of the body cells to mend and regenerate, that was resident long before this discovery.

When we seek medical help, it is not a ‘miracle cure‘ effected by doctors that we get, but a stimulation of our own bodies to effect a cure.

Drugs and chemicals are only aids to help the body work better toward helping itself.  When bones knit or cells repair, or when cancer is fought off, it is because our own bodies have worked toward that end.

Even surgery that cuts out ineffective or toxic elements from our bodies relies on this natural healing process to ‘kick in‘ to complete the endeavor.

While help from doctors, natural therapists, nutritionists, surgeons, etc., may be needed to direct the course of the healing when our bodies are too assailed and we are at a loss, ultimately all healing comes from within ourselves.

For thousands of years, the stimulation of the body to help itself has been the foundation of a multitude of medicinal and metaphysical approaches to healing.

Yet even metaphysical healing is not healing that comes from another, but is a way of stimulating the body cells to remember their ability to ward off attack, and to refresh and regenerate.

In metaphysical healing, this is done by merging the spiritual energy inhabiting the body of the person so assailed with the spiritual energy of the metaphysical assessor, and – by this strengthened connection –  with the metaphysical energy from the ‘cosmic pool‘ from which all spiritual energy is sourced.

Once this ‘touch‘ with the ‘cosmic pool‘ reasserts the ‘truth of unbroken contact‘ within the cell memory in the body, the assailed cells can remember their true ability and assert it.

It’s like inserting a capacitor into an electronic circuit board, through which energy flows in a regulated manner.  The merging between a metaphysical or spiritual healer and their patient is like the capacitor, and through this connection both the healer and patient are benefited, (even if the healer’s body becomes temporarily exhausted, later, from carrying a higher energy flow than is physically usual).

In my belief system, each of us is spirit energy inhabiting the avatar of a human body, so we all possess the skill of such an assessor to engage our own body cells, spirit to spirit, and to enable them to remember their ability to self-heal.

Most of the time, though, we don’t focus on ourselves or our own bodies that much – not even if we are healers.

Our energy is often directed into the outer world, toward others, toward issues to do with others, toward issues that affect our welfare or the welfare of others, and toward plying energy in the world.

In that scenario, our bodies are only tools, and as ‘only tools‘ we can far too easily disregard them.

If we do become concerned with our physical health or fitness, we may apply energy toward achieving an optimum condition.  We may seek therapeutic advice or activate exercise or diet modes that seem to bring us ‘back into shape’, yet still find that we have phases where we are exhausted, struggling, or lacking enthusiasm.

This is because healing is not something that can truly be coerced.  Healing is coaxed not coerced.

Because healing is wholistic.

It is about connection, and no amount of advice or tools, methods or even surgery will enable full healing if elements are missing that need to be connected in order to achieve an optimum energy flow.

Even if healing seems apparent despite those elements being missing, time proves that they are relevant because of the other energy levels that become compromised – causing the exhaustion, the struggle, and lack of enthusiasm, etc.

It’s like taking B Group Vitamins.  If you take only one type of B Group Vitamin, you naturally set up an imbalance in the levels of the other B Group Vitamins your body needs, because B Group Vitamins are reliant on each other, and work synergistically.  Each B Group Vitamin must be at a certain level of intake, that is always a constant against the levels of intake of the other B Group Vitamins.  So if you raise the level of one of them, you need to raise the levels of all of them.

When healing is treated wholistically, it is not just the body that is given the necessary elements to foster healing.  The spirit, mental state, and emotions are also attended to.  Because when these are in good states of being, the body is more inclined to regenerate.  (This also works vice versa, which is why exercise can have a therapeutic effect on emotional imbalances such as depression).

In my belief system, there are also spiritual  limitations to what can be healed and what cannot, because of the ‘cosmic laws that bind the physical realm together‘ and shape our ‘destiny‘.

My son, who was disabled in a road accident at age 13, was healed by both doctors and ourselves (we used metaphysical methods).

Even though we believe in the spiritual limitations inherent in life, we did not give up on him just because the world is shaped by such ‘laws of destiny‘.  We remained faithful to the ‘energy of spirit‘ in plying our connections and keeping up the hope of a different outcome.

After all, the future is always a ‘place in flux‘ and, while predictions and prophecies can be made about it, it is never a completely known quantity until it has become an event and passed into history.  Until that happens, there is nothing wrong in trying every avenue possible for change.

However, while our son’s progress in recovery was definitely miraculous, he still has residual impairments today that cannot be changed.

To understand how we assess that as a ‘miracle’, know that prior to this recovery, the doctors had already declared that he was a ‘vegetable’ and would never walk or talk again.

So, the ‘miracle’ happened even though he retains some disabilities.  By asserting our loving connection with him and enabling his assailed body to reconnect with the ‘cosmic pool‘ more effectively, we asserted similar modes to that of modern science, which stimulates stem cells to regenerate.

Our energy helped his energy to remember it could heal.

On  a more mundane level, storms tore through our gardens at home not long ago.  Trees were damaged in their passing, including young rowan (or mountain ash) trees we had planted along our fence line.

One has had a tap root severed, and is hanging on to life through peripheral roots – still thriving, but seriously ‘wonky‘  We still need to construct a cage to help prop that tree, in the hope of enabling it to form a new tap root.

I have no doubt that if this tree had come down in the forest, it would have grown a new root system along its trunk, all reaching into the ground below it’s prone form.  Nature is the grand artist of keeping life going in dramatically new ways… But since we want this tree to shield our view of our neighbor’s roof line, it must be propped until time and the ‘spirit of the tree‘ find a way to heal and regenerate.

The other was split in half right down the center of the trunk.  We propped the pieces back together and the canopy has continued to flourish, but it became clear that the tree would need far more help before it could grow over the gaps caused by such a serious split.

We did consider cutting away the half that kept wanting to make its way to the ground (the other half was strong enough to stand all by itself), but since that half, too, had a canopy that was thriving, it seemed such a shame to kill it (though we would have honored its wood in our carvings).

So we did some research and discovered how others had dealt with similar blows, and the result was that we inserted bolts through the pieces in several places.

We did cut away one branch that was far too heavy to allow healing to occur, but also bolted together another branch that just needed more support to be effective.

personal photo by Lilipily Spirit


personal photo by Lilipily Spirit

Now our young ash tree is akin to a human body full of nuts and bolts after necessary surgery.  Eventually, the tree will grow around the bolts (which allow the heart sap to flow and not be throttled, as can happen when you place bands around a tree).

In decades to come, you won’t even know the bolts are there.

personal photo by Lilipily Spirit


personal photo by Lilipily Spirit


personal photo by Lilipily Spirit

The story of this tree and the work we have done to help it can be used as a metaphor.

We all need help sometimes in order to heal.  Especially if the damage is just too much to do anything about it by ourselves.  Often, the work required to heal in that case is extensive and leaves hidden scars, just like our tree will have inside itself.

The split will be hidden within the tree, never to be discovered until the tree finally comes down, but the damage done will not shorten its life, nor stop it thriving.

personal photo by Lilipily Spirit

As I wrote previously, healing is wholistic.  It encompasses many levels of life, including spiritual, mental and emotional, not just the physical.

In modern times, the modes of thought are often to excise the parts of life that are no longer working, to walk away from bad relationships or bad jobs, to cut off even the beautiful and thriving because it no longer fits with our view of what we want in our lives – but nature shows us that if the spirit is strong, even the worst damage can often be healed, and what may temporarily look like a disaster can once again be a thing of beauty if we take the effort to enact repair and allow time for healing to occur.

Therefore, even the worst and seemingly unhealable splits can re-merge in a unified entity if all parties put in the effort to make things work – or allow the intervention of others to help them do that.

The tragedies of life that affect our deepest selves can also be healed in a similar way, if we open up to accepting a bit of help from others – and where full physical healing is not possible, the mind and spirit can always be regenerated.

Our delightful son is evidence of that, and has earned our respect as our imagined embodiment of the delightful vedic god, Ganesha, with his burgeoning joy for life despite his disabilities.

We all acknowledge the way nature thrives through the worst catastrophes and adapts itself to whatever situation it finds itself in.  Yet we often struggle to align ourselves to the idea that we, as beings of nature, also have this ability.

By remembering our inner source and reconnecting with the ‘cosmic pool of spiritual energy‘ that supplies us, we can rediscover the inherent healing within ourselves, on whatever level that healing is attainable.


P.S. For those who have a similarly split tree, be aware that, despite such surgery, there can be the possibility of further assail if water gets into the split and encourages rot or insect attack.  We used silicon spray to seal the inside of the split.  The spray was able to get into the splintered areas where we would not have been able to inject silicon from a hand gun.  Because it is only a thin coat of spray, we may have to repeat this process every couple of years until the split has grown over.

Lilipily Spirit – Empower Your Life, Connect with the Divine





Irreparable Damage

ACEThe first time I ever sprained an ankle was when I jumped off the roof of the tin shed in our back yard as a teenager.

I and my friends loved to climb up onto the shed roof and survey the yard from ‘on high,’ as if ten feet off the ground gave us an ‘eagle’s point of view’.

We were also ‘superman‘ fans, hence came the idea of jumping off the roof onto the spongy green grass, below.

I landed like a cat on my feet most times I jumped, but it only took once to sprain my ankle.  My mother was a good nurse and treated the swelling with a hot and cold compress, as you did in those days.

Firstly, she laid on hot towels, then ice-blocks, wrapped in towels – repeating the cycle until the swelling reduced.  Then, she wrapped the ankle in an elastic bandage.

I got over that first sprained ankle fairly well, though I could not wear a shoe on one foot for a while.

Life went on, and I did my usual activities, including school athletics.  The ankle seemed fine.

Later on in life, I sprained my ankle again, and treated it as my mother had taught me, and got through that time, too, or so I thought.

Little did I know that each time my ankle was damaged, it was leaving a mark of much longer duration.

It was when I slipped on a varnished stage floor during rehearsals for an amateur theater production that it really hit home that sprains are not always so easy to repair.

That one took six months before it fully healed, and after that I only had to twist my ankle slightly before I could feel the threat of damage, again, or suffered it.  I knew my ankle had become weaker.

It didn’t stop me using it.  I still took long walks, still didn’t protect it as well as I should have.

When we bought a new house, I helped carry large old railway sleepers to their position in the garden we established, and dropped one end on the same foot.

Again, the foot was damaged, but recovered in time.  But the recovery was fragile.  Since then, every time I did too much with that foot, pain and inflammation set in – along with numb spots, which were later diagnosed as neuropathy.

It took a lot of time – years of activity and injury – to get to that point, and many years of ignoring the fragility of my foot and ankle by not protecting it effectively.

When you want to be healthy and to live a healthy life, you can force yourself through situations where you really should be more careful, because you want to believe that all will be well so long as you persevere.

The fact is, though, that today I have arthritis and neuropathy in a foot that has been injured in the same areas too many times and, even with massage and care, that foot is never going to be the same.

There are days when I get out of bed and just hobble.  It is what it is.  For me, there’s no point dwelling on it.  I just deal with it as best I can.  It’s too late to change the results, now.

In life, a similar process happens when spirit gets hurt.

When we are young, we may have a sort of resilience that enables us to ‘bounce back‘ from the things that hurt us.

Part of that ‘bounce back‘ is often asserted in a youthful cockiness that stands up to assaults and bears them down.

When we discover that resilience, we can be somewhat abrupt about what we can do and how we can behave.

We can end up making assumptions, speaking out of turn, or putting other people’s ‘noses out of joint‘ all in a day’s work.  But with a youthful face and time on our side, we can usually act out such erroneous behavior and get away with it, in the main.

Yes, there may be punishments to suffer, but those punishments are often only temporary, and feel better to deal with than the hurts that initiated our reactions.

We move on, but we don’t always learn the lessons we should.

With an attitude of having ‘stuck up for ourselves‘ we may not see the pain and disruption we have caused to others too clearly – others who did not hurt us on the same level as our original assailants did – but our focus, by then, is on our own hurt and pain, which we keep protecting ourselves from.

Often, we’ll commit the same acts over and over again, despite the consequences, because we believe we are ‘defending our rights‘ – and while we may suffer backlashes, we remain assured because we ‘always bounce back‘.

However, if this sort of reactive and self-centered behavior continues as we get older, others become less inclined to be so forgiving.  We are no longer ‘spring chickens‘, no longer ‘dewy in our skin‘, and should have ‘learned something better‘ by then.

We could say that these are just the phases of ‘growing up‘ and that some people take longer to do that than others – but one day, if we’re still ‘falling into the same traps‘, the ‘tide turns‘ and there can suddenly be no redemption.

Others begin to reject us outright.

There are no more ‘willing ears‘ to listen to pleas for mercy based on hurts from long ago, that are nothing really to do with them.

So the inherent limitations in life are eventually faced, even if we have held against them for an extremely long time.

Just like with my bad foot, there are not always ‘second chances‘ forthcoming.

This is especially bad if we have hurt others who are close to us – those in our intimate circles who we thought could put up with our worst bad habits.

When those people turn away and never come back, the lesson comes all too late in sorrow and grief that is extremely difficult to deal with.

The resulting damage to our spirit from the mental and emotional pain of rejection can be beyond repair, simply because there are no solutions to be had by then.

Life goes on, nevertheless, for better or worse – but the scars can be permanent.

Then, it can be hard to not end up living a life that is dogged by misery, regret, or a sense of hopelessness.

Of course, that only magnifies the original assaults that caused the pain that set us on the long path of defensiveness and self-protection in the first place.

While examining the root causes of this position can be helpful, along with mechanisms for redirecting the pain, that pain will always rear its head again whenever a hurt assails us until we can completely detach ourselves from our feelings about it.

That is easier said than done.

Another recourse is to be like Chiron, the wounded healer from ancient Greek mythology.

Chiron was a centaur (half man, half horse) who acquired a wound that could never heal.  He was immortal, so the wound was a constant and eternal source of pain.  Yet because of this wound he had a marvelous empathy and compassion for others who were in pain and needed healing.

Whenever we use our own pain or wounds as a source of understanding for others who are suffering, we can still find a reason for living though all else seems lost.

By directing our focus toward helping others, we also detach ourselves from the personal aspect of our pain.

We may not be able to cure ourselves but, by knowing the reasons for our pain and all its whys and wherefores, we can foster and support the health and harmony of others.

That can be a far better redemption than acceptance in the end.


(NOTE: While this essay includes some personal history with regard to sprains, the latter half is not based purely on personal history.  The essay is constructed from personal observations and trains of thought in which I have been examining the details of life in general, and especially in the society I live in.   It is just an opinion and is offered as an idea, not as a tenet.  Feel free to add comments if you wish to expand on this opinion with your own ideas).

Lilipily Spirit – Empower Your Life, Connect with the Divine